Have you ever been in a situation where your thought process turns out from being completely positive to negative slowly ?
Does that ever make you feel alone even when there are a lot of people around you ? Have you ever noticed, all the unbelievably handsome & beautiful, men & women reading this blogpost that; it is more important that what you be from the inside than who all people you be with and meet outside ?
Feeling deceived & dejected from your own people around in your family & friends circle is disturbing!
Mental health is “a state of well-being in which the individual realizes his or her own abilities, can cope with the normal stresses of life, can work productively and fruitfully, and is able to make a contribution to his or her community”, according to the World Health Organization.
I also have felt this a lot of times that ,”You are a cause for things which you never intended to do” , people hate you when you talk to someone and if it turns out into an argument, the frequency of you getting blamed for that argument is literally very high.
Let us face this, that we are humans & we have emotions, which we cannot keep locked always. Emotions are literally part of being humans in that there will be expectations from the people you love. Not all of us can become monks, if all of us become monks what is the value to their knowledge & teachings ? That is the stigma you need to smell that all of us can listen to these highly enlightened men, but not all of us can follow it as we have our own individual personalities.
There will be disagreements, fights & arguments which are quite natural. But in India there is this an understanding for some that, “If you argue, you are ill-mannered”, some of the good add-ons are that, a lot of people taunt you with the face of joking or pseudo-enlightenment that pisses you off, plus the cherry on the cake is that they will be the people you never expected who would talk in such a way.
When you are an easy going person it happens more often & you start blaming yourself for the way people talk to you, the way they blame you & the way they are making your life to live hard, mentally.
The paraphrasing here will be simple, “In the whole lot of people blaming themselves and telling no-one about their emotions, when you become someone who is vocal, evident & expressive about your emotions, beware! But why?? you will be called as an Arguer, Cry-baby, Problem-creator, Scene-creator, Troublemaker & A loquacious person in the context for whom the only interest is to make others unhappy by having opinions , that have to be “Oh!, Not so public!” “
For both the personalities above, its not to so simple to be understood, all of us know! All I can say is that there is a remedy to this by thinking logically that, “You were not alone in this”, whatever takes place in our life which crashes our mind down, is never because we interact with ourselves but because we interact with other humans having their own opinions.
And one simple thing which all of us need to know is that, “Only we have the power to make ourselves happy from the Inside and no-one else has the power to make us unhappy except we ourselves.”
The ill mental health does not come by the no. of the age anyone belongs to; please don’t make it an advantage for the adults everyone children, teenagers, adults & old, have to face their own challenges in their specific environment they be in.
On a last note, we as a community should realize that if we consider somebody who speaks as judgemental then you must also consider the people who blame them as judgemental. This simply means that either both of them are or none of them is.
And for all those who feel they are extra-outspoken at times, if you feel this because of some pressure underneath, trust me you should not! You deserve to be yourself and you own it, there’s nothing unusual in just being yourself.
It’s very important to know, “To be bothered by whom” because some people literally should never bother you as there one simple thing, “You can never make everyone happy.”
And lastly to trust in your abilities & you as a whole. Going through the process you fall in and trusting that it makes you stronger for the same kind of situation which will be repeated in future.
This whole blog is a very bitsy part of the whole concept of Mental Health, there are so many other folds to this. Also, sometimes the people can say for your good and sadly sometimes for bad too! These are experiences which are one of a kind!
Life is about learning these experiences & moving to another chapter. Last but definitely not the least ,” Believe in time, time is the best healer.”
Thankyou for holding on and reading this blog of mine, Really thankful!
The views expressed in this blog are strictly personal, they do not condemn any name, person or union.
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